Which One Is Better Please Don't BE MEAN?

Okay So I kinda have hair like this http://blog.ouidad.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/shakira-225x300.jpg except my curls are a little tighter than that. I want to get my hair done something like this http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3135/3113467163_2cff9510aa.jpg and my hairs black okay what colors can i use or any suggestions my mo says we should get my hair relaxed what could i do to get this hairstyle and any ideas on how i can manage it daily??